Here’s A Quick Guide To Jumpoff Your BDSM Desire

It is so common that even one of the Sex and the City series was devoted to this particular problem. And bad language at the savory moment is nothing but subliminal signals that indicate the inclination of a person’s BDSM. Using dirty words is one type of humiliation.

What can I say: when a spouse, tired of the day from the troubles and cares about children, and which all this sex is already fed up, gives her body to the use of her husband so that he does not run over his mistresses – this is pure S & M! But – joking aside! Before knowing the urethral sounding benefits let’s first understand the concepts. The term BDSM itself is not defined in four words, as it may seem at first glance.

BD – bondage and discipline;

DS – domination and submissiveness;

SM – sadism and masochism.

So, the traditional naming of adherents of the BDSM culture as sadomasochist is erroneous, since concerns only one of its aspects. The very act of BDSM can lead to a certain result not necessarily to orgasm! By the way, the thematic session may not be related to sex at all. This result is a state of euphoric trance, called Subspace, during which the hormone endorphin is released, which can drown out pain.

Bondage and discipline

Bondage and discipline is a form of role-playing game that involves fixing with one of the partners of the other by binding, handcuffing, using adhesive tape or other devices. Here, bondage is holding the partner in a single, usually extremely uncomfortable position. Discipline involves certain rules in the game, in violation of which the partner who is on the bottom receives punishment. BDSM is the most risky kind of sex, and bondage is its most dangerous aspect. This game is only suitable for partners who absolutely trust each other, because, having lost the ability to move, the lower partner surrenders himself completely to the power of his Master. And if the leader suddenly manifests himself as a mentally unbalanced character or even a maniac, the outcome of the session can be tragic. In addition, the very binding, made by inept hands, can not only harm the health, but also lead to death. Therefore, people who are truly interested in BDSM usually study in detail binding techniques and attend special workshops.

Dominance and submission

Dominance and submission can be seen not only in the aspect of sexual games, but also as a model of family relationships. After all, a person inclined to leadership is the Dominant abbreviated House for designating a man and Domino for a woman. Dominance includes all kinds of power over a partner. Roughly speaking, if your spouse is a henpecked, then in this relationship you are the House, and he is the Sub and if you listen to your husband in everything, then vice versa.

The same relationship model can be easily found in sex of people who do not have a clue about BDSM for example, sexual services for a partner on his initiative.

Sadism and masochism Role play

Sadism – Masochism involves the infliction of pain physical or psychological. Accordingly, a sadist is satisfied by causing pain and a masochist by receiving it. Two historical figures with their names define these names: Frenchman Marquis de Sade and Austrian Leopold von Sacher-Masoch. Both were writers in whose works the heroes indulged in so-called sexual perversions with elements of physical and mental humiliation. So pain infliction belongs to the realm of sadism and masochism.

Pain can also manifest itself in other role-playing games (for example, as a result of bondage), but in them it is not the main goal, but rather a side effect. The pain can be delivered in a variety of ways and can vary in intensity: from dripping onto the body with hot wax from a candle to lashes and more severe effects. Actually, if during sex the partner likes to take her partner’s head by the hair, causing her pain, this already indicates a tendency towards BDSM relationships. Separately, psychological sadomasochism is distinguished, when the game of causing pain is conducted purely on a psychological level.

 Imagine a couple in which a man changes, and a woman, experiencing jealousy and suffering about this, does not leave him, but remains and, moreover, to some extent, proud that her man is in demand, and she is in this line of women – the first and foremost. Such relationships are very close to what is called psychological sado-masochism.

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The key point in BDSM games

Everything must happen by mutual agreement and bring mutual pleasure. Therefore, it is very important to understand that ordinary household sadism, street rape or assault will have no relation to BDSM by definition. With all the riskiness of such games, the leader is always responsible for the safety of the slave – not only physical, but also psychological. Safety, Intelligence and Voluntary – these are the three rules that distinguish a real pet food from an amateur. Before the session begins, the couple agrees to use the code word, the so-called stop-word or the word of salvation, with the help of which Nizhny may warn the partner that the game scenario should be interrupted or changed. Simple requests and please (such as Enough! Stop, Do not!) Will not have any effect on the lead partner – they can only make more. Therefore, in order not to cross the dangerous edge, a word is preselected (for example, red), which is used only as a last resort, and is designed to instantly stop the Upper actions.

Many guys learned a couple of chords on the guitar at an early age, but only a few will play decently. And it’s not just talent, but above all in the efforts to learn something new and improve the old. So it is with sex life. Men masturbate from an early age, and in fact, no one has taught them (in most cases). It seems like everything turned out by itself, at the call of nature.

Being a sexual skill, masturbation in the view of most men is something given, unchanging, unnamable to change, including positive. But this is not at all the case. Masturbating wisely, we can learn something new about ourselves and our body, and this knowledge will not only bring many new and pleasant sensations into our lives, but also significantly expand our ideas about sex with a partner. Before you start: many may think: “What wildness, it looks ridiculous!” Yes, from the side of many of the tips presented here look strange, funny or frightening. But no one will watch from the outside! Why be shy? This is your life, and you are trying to live it as fully as possible. Improving the sexual side of your life is wise and useful.

Go to the jewelry store – there you can easily find velvet black ribbons on the neck or short necklaces imitating a collar. And, for example, body decorations such as tattoos, piercings, scarification and even wearing corsets are also part of the BDSM culture – the so-called body modification in order to obtain certain sensations. Leather clothes are also thematic attributes. Women more and more often admit that they are not averse to engaging in so-called hard sex, in which a partner enters into a rough partner without any foreplay.

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You never get upset if this or that advice turned out to be completely useless for you personally. There is no “right” or “universal” way to masturbate, but, if you approach this business with enthusiasm, sooner or later new horizons will open up to you.